HELP? SEX QUESTION?
Hi, Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about a year now. We were both virgins when we met, and we've recently started having sex. Problem is though when we have sex, I feel no pleasure at all. We've tried many positions even with me on top it still doesnt feel nice, it does hurt a lot at first (He's about average size) but then after that I don't get any pleasure. I get a lot of pleasure from clitoris stimulation though. I've never had an orgasm though because It feels so nice lol, maybe thats why? Im just wondering if anyone has any advice, maybe positions etc. I'm not sure if it's of any help but because of this we've only had sex 4-5 times. I'm really really concious and shy of my body, we only have sex in the dark and I don't let him see anything.
August 26th, 2008 at 4:36 pm
The reason you are not feeling any pleasure is because your to busy concentrating on if he will see what you look like.
tensing up.
relax. Your boyfriend will love your body! You got to feel confident because that's a big turn on for men.
does your man feel about having sex in the dark? Just think, if you were the man and your girlfriend was shy, and didn't want to reveal her body to him, and have sex in the dark.
would want to see her body wouldn't you, and you would love it. Be confident! Yes, it takes a while to overcome shyness, because i've experienced that with my boyfriend while having sex. He loves my body, i'm not very big, but he loves me for who i am, and how i look.
the lights on! Or if you dont want them full on, dim the lights. It can be really romantic and put you in the mood.
the light reflects off your body making your body look fabulous.
he is in you, think of you and him, think of him pleasuring you. Naughty things. A tip when he is in you, do the missoniary position and when hes laying on top, lift you pelvis up so he can go deeper into you, and tell him to lean on his elbows (lower arm). Because then he can stimulate the clitoris aswell. If your on top, then get him to lift up.
hes in move around a bit and make sure he goes in deep because your g-spot can be there.
be confident about your body, Everyone is beautiful.