Should we get a second opinion on HIV test results?
My fiance and I have been together 3 years, never used drugs, and have not had any other sexual partners but each other in our 3 year relationship. He is 31 years old and I am 26. He recently went to have a check up at his new provider where they performed a routine examination and a blood test. He was not aware he was being tested for HIV, just thought it was a regular blood work test because it was a new dr.
he went in for the results, the dr told him that they had tested his blood for HIV and got “abnormalities” on the test, so they tested it again and it tested postive for HIV. Of course we are devastated.and confused/shocked! I immedietly went in to be tested. My test came back negative, but I was advised to be tested again in 3-6 months just in case I have been recently infected by him and am in a window area. My question is, how, after 3 years of unprotected sexual intercourse with only each other and no other risk factors in our lives, can he have HIV and I dont? It doesnt make any sense to me, as he has had zero exposure in 3 years! Should we get a second opinion or another test? I am so scared and confused.but dont want to live in a state denial. He goes back in this week to see an immunity specialest referred to him by the dr to check his viral loads. I am praying for a miracle.
advice or knowledge would be great. OK correction, he was getting tested for HIV and was aware of it, sorry. I got confused. My mind hasnt been working properly since the news, as I am sure u can understand. He was also tested about 2 years ago and was negative then.
sure what type of test was used this time around. (assuming elisa and wb) Thanks again for all your input, keep it coming.
July 31st, 2008 at 11:50 pm
Hon, he could have, and probably was, infected with HIV when you met him. He doesn't need to have fooled around on you to be HIV+. My situation is a little different from you. I'm gay.
I was with my friend for 12 years and we discovered last year that he was HIV+ and his situation (viral load, etc.) indicated that he had been positive for years. We were in a monogmous relationship and didn't use drugs. Anyway, after all those years together he was and I'm -. If you need some support then contact me. I'll answer your e-mail and I'd be interested to learn how he's doing and how you're coping. My thoughts.