Sex Manual

I have a serious question, but it is a little out there for yahoo answers so hopefully it won't delete this. Anyway.. During sex, if I get off before my bf, I find it really irritating waiting for him to get off, and when he talks dirty to pep himself up for the finish, I almost find it ridiculous and unattractive. Of course when I'm feeling good and waiting to orgasm, I like it when he talks. I just feel bad for thinking he sounds dumb when I have already gone. Also, after sex, I find myself just wanting to get up and do something, rather than lay there and cuddle, don't get me wrong, sometimes I want to sit there and cuddle but my bf does every time. I wanted to know how everyone else's experiences are, if they are the same or different? Just looking for some input.