How do Christian spouses who are separated for a long period of time deal with sexual urges?
In my previous question about masturbation, many Christians said it wasn’t just the lusting that makes masturbation wrong, but that it is somehow an affront to marriage itself. answers.yahoo.com So I was just wondering, if your husband/wife is deployed to Iraq for a year, does God require you to simply shut off your body’s natural desires completely until he/she comes back? What if he/she is sent out of town on business for a month? Is there a time/distance limitation on this? Again, there is no insult intended by this question and I apologize if you find it offensive. I’m asking because I want to understand, thanks. Ruth, I’m perfectly confident in my own feelings on the subject. I’m asking believers about this because the statements they make regarding this issue make no sense to me. * I am a single atheist, so I'm not asking for personal advice here.
trying to understand this from a Christian viewpoint out of curiosity.
July 23rd, 2008 at 11:29 am
I think one of the reasons there isn't anything more specific in the Bible about masturbation is that God intends for us to be living Spirit-filled lives, as Christians. I think that Spirit-led Christians know what is defrauding their spouses and what isn't. I'm not saying that non-believers could not use their brains to arrive at some of the same conclusions, but when I see these questions, it makes me wonder. Edit: I wasn't specifically referring to your confidence on the subject, but to the question itself. I see it as trying to pigeon-hole people into making or defending generalizations that might not apply to the marriages of others.
(again): After seeing some of these answers, I tend to empathize better with you.
people are speaking from their specific religious perspective and not for all Christians.
of us take our beliefs from the Bible and if isn't in there, we don't try to make a law out of it. As a divorce attorney, however, I can attest that there is an ever-growing problem of porn addiction in marriage. I haven't divorced anyone yet because their spouse was consumed with lust for them.